Handling Negativities and Haters In Life

Last Updated on August 25, 2025

Starting a real estate investment journey can be exciting, but it also attracts criticism and negativity. Friends, relatives or internet trolls might dismiss house‑flipping as a scam or claim that you lack experience. These comments can make you question yourself. In reality, negativity is part of any business venture, and it often reflects the insecurities of the person who says it rather than your ability. Negative people are common, especially when you try something new. Instead of letting them derail your plans, use their comments to fuel your progress.

Negativity Is Inevitable

The first lesson is acceptance. Even if you treat others with respect, you will still encounter people who are cruel or dismissive. Many of them project their own frustrations onto others. Realizing that their words are not about you but about their personal struggles makes it easier to avoid taking things personally. Instead of engaging with negative comments, recognize that haters rarely have your best interests at heart.

Why Some People Act Like Haters?

• Projection of pain – hurt people often hurt others. When someone is unhappy or insecure, they may criticize those who are trying something new because seeing others take action reminds them of their own stagnation.
  
• Fear of change – starting a new business or investing in property disrupts routines and challenges familiar norms. People may discourage you because they fear what they do not understand.
  
• Limited perspective – many critics have never tried investing. They judge from the sidelines without understanding what is required to succeed.
  

Step 1: Turn Negativity Challenges Into Motivation

When things get difficult, deals fall through, contractors back out, or market conditions shift, you might feel discouraged. See those challenges as a sign that a good opportunity is on the way. Obstacles often occur right before success. Instead of complaining, get excited. A shift in perspective turns negative events into motivation to keep going. Every missed opportunity pushes you to become more resourceful and expectant.

Tip: The next time a deal falls apart or someone criticizes your plans, remind yourself that difficulties are part of the process. Use them as a cue to keep learning and adjusting your strategy.

Step 2: Protect Your Mindset from Negativity Through Faith or Mindfulness

Prayer helps you release negative energy and cultivate compassion for people who hurt you. If you are not religious, consider meditation, journaling or deep breathing. The goal is to create space between someone’s comments and your reaction. When you pause before responding, you are less likely to absorb hurtful words.

Step 3: Stop Pleasing Others

Many of us try to make others happy, but research shows that people are not good at predicting what makes them happy. If you build your business to please others, you will never meet their changing expectations. Note: people always expect more and seldom feel satisfied. Spend your money and energy wisely, on education, research, and systems that support your investing goals. Do not buy a property or follow a strategy just to prove yourself.

Focus on Your Own Race

• Set personal goals – decide how many properties you want to acquire this year or how much passive income you need. Measure progress against your goals, not the opinions of others.
  
• Run your own numbers – evaluate deals based on their merits. Do not bid up a property to outshine someone else.
  
• Define success for yourself – for some, success means financial independence; for others, it is time freedom. Clarity about why you invest makes outside criticism less influential.
  

Step 4: Study Greatness and Surround Yourself with Mentors

Everyone who succeeds deals with negativity. In real estate investing, learning from experienced mentors helps you navigate challenges and avoid common mistakes. Mentors provide guidance, accountability and proof that success is possible.

Choosing a Mentor

1. Look for real experience – mentors should have verifiable deals and years of practice.
   
2. Check their teaching style – a good mentor is patient, explains concepts clearly and shows you how to think through deals rather than just giving answers.
   
3. Make sure they align with your values – your mentor should respect your long‑term goals and not push you into deals that do not fit your strategy.
   

Key Steps to Get Away from Negativity

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Conclusion: Choose Focus Over Fear

If you’re starting or growing a real estate investment business, negativity and haters will show up. They may doubt your ability, question your decisions or even call your business a scam. Don’t let their words derail your dreams. Get excited about the opportunities ahead, centre yourself through prayer or mindfulness, stop trying to please people who will never be satisfied, and learn from those who have already succeeded. Your success depends on staying focused, maintaining a positive attitude and surrounding yourself with mentors who believe in you.

Stay the course, trust your plan and keep moving forward. The only people who matter are the ones who support your journey and the person you’re becoming along the way.

By following the steps above, you can transform negativity into a catalyst for growth and continue your journey with confidence and clarity.

Talk soon,

Dustin

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